Mothers and fathers are not born, they're made.
I've never understood this until I watched my husband over the last year. Aaron was so excited to be a dad. He was amazing during the pregnancy and birth and cried the most beautiful tears when Everly was born. While she was tiny he loved to snuggle her and naps together were their favorites. But he had a hard time when she fussed. And let me tell you, she was a fussy baby. She wanted to be held all.the.time. and it was hard on us. Around seven each night she'd start to cry (or scream) and do that for a few hours. Months two through four were hard on us all. I struggled and Aaron struggled. There were nights we didn't think we'd get through. I'm sure that I've grown stronger and better in the last year but I don't notice the changes in myself. I can tell you for certain though, my husband has become the father that Everly needs and deserves. He is amazing with her. Her crying used to frustrate him and stress him out (both of us, really). Now he responds to her cries. He hears her fuss and figures out the source. When she's having a hard time falling asleep he takes her in his arms, rocks her back and forth, and sings sweet lullabies to her. A year ago he couldn't do that. He hadn't learned about her yet. Now he's a source of comfort to her. Everly loves her daddy. She loves to play with him and could spend hours doing so. I could spend hours just watching the two of them. He said to me yesterday "I really like the person Everly has made me in to." I really like this person too. He's amazing.
Aaron has grown so much over the past year as a father and it has made my love for him so much deeper. To watch him with our daughter is to truly know love.
I've never understood this until I watched my husband over the last year. Aaron was so excited to be a dad. He was amazing during the pregnancy and birth and cried the most beautiful tears when Everly was born. While she was tiny he loved to snuggle her and naps together were their favorites. But he had a hard time when she fussed. And let me tell you, she was a fussy baby. She wanted to be held all.the.time. and it was hard on us. Around seven each night she'd start to cry (or scream) and do that for a few hours. Months two through four were hard on us all. I struggled and Aaron struggled. There were nights we didn't think we'd get through. I'm sure that I've grown stronger and better in the last year but I don't notice the changes in myself. I can tell you for certain though, my husband has become the father that Everly needs and deserves. He is amazing with her. Her crying used to frustrate him and stress him out (both of us, really). Now he responds to her cries. He hears her fuss and figures out the source. When she's having a hard time falling asleep he takes her in his arms, rocks her back and forth, and sings sweet lullabies to her. A year ago he couldn't do that. He hadn't learned about her yet. Now he's a source of comfort to her. Everly loves her daddy. She loves to play with him and could spend hours doing so. I could spend hours just watching the two of them. He said to me yesterday "I really like the person Everly has made me in to." I really like this person too. He's amazing.
Aaron has grown so much over the past year as a father and it has made my love for him so much deeper. To watch him with our daughter is to truly know love.
xo Sue
I love this!!! It is so amazing to watch your husband become a father. Someday Everly will appreciate having that relationship with her dad too!!!
ReplyDeleteI already love seeing their relationship. They are so lucky to have each other!
DeleteTotally. My boyfriend is a very different person now. You'd think, after nearly 20 years together, I would have known what to expect. But I really had no idea how much being a Daddy would change him!
ReplyDeleteIt's crazy how different they became, and completely beautiful!
DeleteThis is seriously one of the sweetest posts I've ever read. <3
ReplyDeleteThank you Jane! I've been writing it in my head for a while- basically every time I see them together. It had to be shared!
DeleteLove this, so much. This is one of the sweetest posts I've ever read.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much. They are my whole world and I want others to know how wonderful they are!
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